About Masturbation

I wish my mother had communicated in some way about masturbation. She caught me masturbating maybe half a dozen times, from a somewhat early age, and she would always get upset with me about it - but I never understood why! Of course, the angst this caused me wasn't nearly enough to stop me from [...]

By | July 26th, 2013|From Parents, From Young Adults|Comments Off on About Masturbation

The names of my genitals

Christy I wish my mom had taught me the correct names for my genitals and that saying the actual names was ok. I wish she has not waited until I was a teenager to give me a book to read about sex and bodies without ever mentioning anything about it prior. I wish I had [...]

By | March 25th, 2013|From Young Adults|Comments Off on The names of my genitals

Stages of Sex

I wish my mom told me more about the different 'stages' of sex. Once I got to my late teens, I was thinking about sex a lot, and figuring out my own morals and ideas about if I should have sex, and who with, and how to know it was "right." However, I only thought [...]

By | March 8th, 2013|From Young Adults|Comments Off on Stages of Sex

Pleasure

I wish my mom had told me that sex was pleasurable and that it wasn't something to be afraid of....because I was afraid it was all I worried about when I met a guy. My first thought was "Do I have to have sex with him"? not "Do I even want to have a cup [...]

By | February 21st, 2013|From Young Adults|Comments Off on Pleasure

The Stages

I wish my mom told me more about the different 'stages' of sex. Once I got to my late teens, I was thinking about sex a lot, and figuring out my own morals and ideas about if I should have sex, and who with, and how to know it was "right." However, I only thought [...]

By | February 21st, 2013|From Young Adults|Comments Off on The Stages

The Specifics

Although I was always told that I could say 'no' to sex, I was never told that I was allowed to say 'no' to specific sex acts. I'm sure my mother thought it was obvious that if I didn't like something, I should speak out. But I thought after you decided you were ready to [...]

By | February 21st, 2013|From Young Adults|Comments Off on The Specifics

Luckily I never had to find that out the hard way…

I wish my mom had told me that I didn't have to put out to find love. It seems like such a simple concept now but since I grew up with the whole "abstinence till marriage" notion I was unprepared for what it'd be like if I didn't wait. I also wish I'd been told [...]

By | February 5th, 2013|From Young Adults|1 Comment

Just be careful…

Anything at all! The first mention my parents EVER made of sex to me was when I was 19 and my then-internet boyfriend (now husband of ten years!) was coming to visit me. My dad said "well... just... be careful." in an IM conversation. I had been sexually active for five years at that point.

By | February 5th, 2013|From Young Adults|Comments Off on Just be careful…

Everyone is different…

I wish my mother would of told me that everyone is different when it comes to sex. One position might be good for one partner but not all partners.

By | February 5th, 2013|From Young Adults|Comments Off on Everyone is different…

My mother would literally cover her ears…

I never got any verbal communication, my mother would literally cover her ears any time I asked a question remotely linked to sexual behavior. I was shown NOVA's "The Miracle of Life" by my grandmother. I was forced into the Catholic education system, so in 8th grade a Vietnamese girl got he period, so the [...]

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