I wish my mom told me more about the different ‘stages’ of sex. Once I got to my late teens, I was thinking about sex a lot, and figuring out my own morals and ideas about if I should have sex, and who with, and how to know it was “right.” However, I only thought about it in terms of actual intercourse. When I discovered there was sort of a spectrum of sexual acts and “how far you can go” — for instance, manual stimulation with fingers, fondling, oral sex, etc. — I hadn’t had nearly enough time to work out in my head what my boundaries and rules were! Instead of only telling me her thoughts on how to handle the actual act of penetration, I wish Mom had told me more about “fooling around’!